Posts Tagged ‘Confidence’
We all have feelings and emotions, sometimes we can feel hurt, sad, betrayed, let down and even angry or jealous when others don’t do as we would like them to or misunderstand the communications we have given or received from them. Now whether others should do what we want is debatable and depends on the context or situation and that is not what I’m getting at here. It is though a problem when we end up feeling those kind of emotions that do us harm because, to feel any of these feelings and emotions you have to internalise them and use some kind of harmful self talk, whether that be consciously or unconsciously to bring about these feelings of being angry, sad, hurt, betrayed, jealous or guilty, just to name a few.
There are times when these feelings are warranted however, there are times when they are not and I’m sure you know what I mean by this, as we are all guilty from time to time of doing just that, now these feelings damage us far more than they will ever do to anyone else and for those of us who tend to run those feelings over and over and over again, we can then sometimes end up feeling very unhappy way after the event is completely finished with and that is detrimental for your wellbeing both mentally and spiritually and the more problems you create by allowing feelings like this to get the better of you the more it affects your life and your personality, this then can then lead to even more problems like the feeling of low self esteem, lack of confidence and unhelpful self talk, if this is left to fester it would lead to serious depression and the negative effects to your health that go with it.
Start to ask yourself, what is this feeling telling me, what can I learn from this?
Use your feelings as a barometer to help you take a step back from any situation, rather than over reacting to it, start to ask yourself how is feeling this way helping you to get the results that you want, what can you learn from this? Forget the past, the only thing that is useful from the past is what you have learnt from your experiences, not how you feel when you think about those past events, unless they are happy and positive thoughts that is. There is no need to carry old burdens you had from your past as they do not serve you and if you had felt anger, sadness, hurt, fear or guilt about past events then it may well be doing you more harm than you realise.
What you can also do to help yourself is to listen to a hypnosis mp3 or see a hypnotherapist, this will help you at an unconscious level to help you become the person you want to be. Remember if you don’t like how you feel, the only person that can really change that is you, make the decision to live the life that you deserve. This now brings me nicely on to my new hypnosis track on Self Esteem and Relaxation which is for sale at less than the price of a decent cup of coffee, please see details below 🙂
Instructions on using this mp3. To get the best from this hypnosis mp3, is to listen to it before going to bed, over headphones and at a low and comfortable volume, either seated in a cosy chair or lying down, take a good 5 minutes out before starting to take some deep breaths and allow yourself to begin to relax, for best results listen to the hypnosis mp3 for 5 nights in a row, then take 2 nights off, repeat this pattern for 4 to 6 weeks, after this use as a “top up” when required.
***Hypnosis should never be listened to whilst driving or operating machinery.***
All music on this mp3 is Royalty Free music
Mystery main theme Music by….Alex Khaskin ( SOCAN ) publisher salieri music inc Native fire Music by….Alex Khaskin ( SOCAN ) publisher salieri music inc Pirates the love story Music by….Alex Khaskin ( SOCAN ) publisher salieri music inc Fairywinds Composers… Bjorn Lynne PRS(uk) Publisher Lynne Publishing (PSR) Pirates hereafter Music by….Alex Khaskin ( SOCAN ) publisher salieri music inc Big epic Music by…Alex Khaskin ( SOCAN ) publisher salieri music inc Lucid dreams Composers… Bjorn Lynne PRS(uk) Publisher Lynne Publishing (PSR) Time to breathe Composers… Bjorn Lynne PRS(uk) Publisher Lynne Publishing (PSR) Humankind Music by….Alex Khaskin ( SOCAN ) publisher salieri music inc
Love, Relationship and Confidence
Well with Valentine’s day fast approaching I thought I would write my blog around love, relationships and confidence which are all amazing states to feel, when they are going great that is. In and of themselves these feelings and emotions are great skills to use within your life not just for use in a romantic situation, after all you may love pets, friends and sometimes even family! and you will have some form of relationship with them too and to a certain degree you need to have confidence as well within all these situations. So confidence, what is it and how do we get it? The dictionary says…… “The quality of being certain of your abilities or having trust in people, plans or the future”.
But how can you feel confident in a situation that you was unsure about? Well first things first, confidence breeds more confidence so if you can switch off all that non helpful internal chatter that resides within yourself and then just stop trying to guess what others are thinking, that will take huge amounts of pressure off what you had been feeling and allow you to start seeing and feeling just how amazing you actually are and then maybe you can begin to feel the love for yourself the way you would love others that you care about, by the way when was the last time you looked in a mirror and said “I love being me I’m happy in my own skin, I like who I am and I will be more than I am right now “? because no matter what you think you are you will always be so much more than that, whether that be happier, more confident or even more wealthier, whether that is finances or your life becoming more richer and worthwhile, start to see what’s not just good but what’s great about your life and you too, then write it down.
Write what good qualities you think make you…. You
And notice just how amazing you are
Work on your own relationship with yourself and your relationship with others will become so much more fulfilling, remember you were once your own best friend, remember your inner child and that unconscious part of you that looks after you now as it has always done, even when you sleep. Begin to push your boundaries and step out of your comfort zone, do something every day that you had thought was not possible for you to do or you did not feel confident enough to do it and it will not be long before you’re feeling more and more confidence in yourself and the situation you choose to enter into whether that be love, friendships or relationships.
Have a great valentine’s day and remember any change no matter how small or how big is better than no change, choose to better your life today.