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Five steps that will help you set your goals with a great outcome in mind
Know your outcome.
Ask yourself these questions
What is it that you want to achieve?
Be specific ……
How will you know that you have achieved it?
What will you see, hear and feel when you achieve your outcome?
Is this outcome for you or is it for others?
Is this outcome self-maintained or do you need others to achieve this outcome?
Do you know someone who has already achieved this outcome before?
What resources do you have and what resources do you need to achieve this outcome?
Where are you now and where do you need to be in relation to achieving this outcome?
Does this outcome increase choice in your life?
Is there more than one way to get this outcome?
What will you lose and what will you gain by achieving this outcome?
What will this outcome bring to your life that was not there already?
Ask yourself these questions until you have a well-defined outcome.
Make your goals S. M. A. R. T Goals
M. Measurable, meaningful to you
A. As if now and achievable
R. Realistic and responsible
T. Timed, towards what you want
Get the last step… Of your outcome
What will you see?
What will you feel?
What will you hear both internally and externally?
How will you know that it has really happened?
“What has to happen so that you know that you got it?”
Make an internal representation…
“See, hear, feel, taste and smell what that last step will be like”
Step into that internal representation see it through your own eyes.
The more real and the more intense the better the internal representation will be.
Now step out of that internal representation and hold it in your hands like you’re looking at a movie of yourself on a iPad or similar device.
Now to take that outcome and put it into your future at the time and date of your choosing.
Imagine floating out of your body, right up into the air, right above now and then begin to float right out into the future taking with you your internal representation, float right to the time and date that you have set for your outcome.
Energise and empower your internal representation with four deep breaths, breath in through your nose and out from your mouth and blow all of that energy into that internal representation, now allow that internal representation to float right down from your hand and right in to your timeline at the time and date that you decided, now watch as the events rewind like a movie and re-evaluate themselves to support your goals all the way from then all the way back to now…. Notice every image with clarity as you focus your attention on the event that is unfolding within your mind, knowing that this is your future, believe that as if it has already happened because when you do this you can begin to take control of your future and that can only be a good thing can’t it?
Now when you’re ready begin to float back to now and right back into your body and back into now knowing your outcome is right there in your future just waiting to happen.
Remember all learning is unconscious.
The fact is all learning is unconscious, remember when you were learning to ride your bike you may have fallen off a few times and maybe you thought at that time that you may never learn how to ride it.
Then the next time as if by magic you got better and better and you didn’t have to think about it anymore, that learning was unconscious wasn’t it?
You did not have to think about all the actions like balancing and pedalling and looking where you were going all at the same time?
Because your unconscious mind was already taking care of that for you just like the breath that you have just taken or that blink of your eye lids it’s all automated at an unconscious level.
The conscious mind is the goal setter and the unconscious mind is the goal getter
So start setting your goals to achieve the outcomes that are just perfect for you because you can
The life we live is so fast and so full of things to do that most people never really get to do all the things that they want and because of the way that our mind works we tend to spend so much of our time thinking about the things that we don’t want in our lives instead of the thing we do, we sometimes worry about the past or the future and all too often we let the past influence our future before it even happens, we let our minds run wild with the what if this happens, what if that doesn’t happen and it is never from a positive perspective, this kind of behaviour can lead to anxiety and low self-esteem which will only make your life seem worse than it really is.
For example, you could take two people, one with a positive outlook on life and one who is negative then set them though the same events over a 24 hour period:- a mixture of fun and misfortune, after the event ask them about their experience, the negative person will only have seen what was bad about their day and have almost no recollection that fun things had happened to them, it’s almost as if the fun things did not happen at all, were as the positive person will make the best of any event and focus their thoughts on living in the now and seeing the fun parts of the day and dismissing any unpleasant events from their life because they know that there is no value to worrying over spilt milk things happen in life – yet to miss chances to feel happy or have fun and not to live in the here and now it is an injustice to yourself as there is no way of undoing what has passed and letting the past affect your future will only give you more of the same, take responsibility for your life and your actions because when you do this you can begin to shape your life into more of what you do want and even when things don’t go as planned you will see them from a different perspective allowing you to make the best of any situation and recover much faster from any negative event that may happen to you.
So how could you start to change if you’re more inclined to feel or see the negative side of things?
Well the good news is you already have the skills and all that you need to do is change your behaviour and if you’re anything like I was you will have got very good at looking for the negative in anything.
Now all you must do is start to look for the positive in every situation, it is the same skill that you have already been using – it’s just like switching the polarity.
So the next time something happens that you would have felt bad about in the past ask yourself how could I see this differently and what could I learn from this, how does feeling this way benefit me and what positive benefits can I gain from this experience? the more you do this the better you will get at it and the better you get the more your life will begin to change for the better, your mind will begin to look for more and more of positive events and begin to delete the negative events from your experience as if they did not happen at all and that can only make your life far better and for less stressful – is that not something that you deserve to feel for yourself?
If there is one thing I have learned from hypnosis, NLP and life coaching it is the importance of a life purpose and to really understand what you want from life, because when you truly know what you want and have a clear focus on who and what you want in your life you can begin to set the gears in motion in the direction where you really want to go when you put your focus on being what you want to be and by putting your thoughts and attention on those things you want in your life and not on the things you don’t want and by keeping this consent even when you sometimes feel that things are not working out as you hoped, if you can keep the focus and the desire no matter what seems to be going on around you, you will find that things will start to happen and when you begin to see this for yourself then those small things can begin to move on to bigger and brighter things.
The best way to know you are on the right track is to use your feelings the way they where made to be used you can check that you feel congruent with your actions and if you don’t, just stop and listen to your inner voice, notice what is being said to you and also notice that there is always a positive intention for you, then ask yourself how will doing this make my life better? and how does this fit with my life purpose and what will doing this allow me to achieve? place your thoughts and attentions on living in the now as the past is gone and the your future is yet unwritten.
Be the designer of your destiny see the things you want as if you already have them now, not only will your life become much richer, people will also begin to see this in you and be attracted to your positive energy. You don’t have to take my word for this if you want proof take a good look around you I’m sure there will be someone that you know or know of that everybody likes to be around and always seem to get what they want,
now notice or even ask them about what they want from life and you will soon see that they already have a life purpose and they live in the now and the funny thing is they may not even of been aware of it until you brought it to their attention.
Step out of your comfort zone and notice what you truly want from life and take responsibility, move yourself from the effect side of the equation to the cause side as this is by far the best side to be on because you choose and cause what happens in your life and that in and of its self will change how you perceive yourself and also how others will perceive you to.
What is Life-Coaching and what can Life-Coaching do for you?
Life-coaching is about helping you find your way forwards though the maze that is life by bringing you to the answers that you already hold within you, the ones that seem to be hidden from sight and just seem out of reach or may even be clouded by problems that you may or may not have in your life right now. You don’t need to have a problem to see a life-coach, you may just wish to better yourself in some way like change your job or get better at a sport or a hobby and whatever that maybe we can assist you to become better at what you want to do in your life as we are guides here to help you find your way through the maze of life, we do not tell you what to do ( nobody likes that do they? ) we can help you to come to the conclusions that are just perfect for you, the one that will work best for you because nobody knows what they want better than you do! which is true is it not? ( now I hear you say if I have the answers within then why would I come to see you?, I could figure it out myself surely ? ) and I would say if that was true then for what reason would you come to be reading this right now? As sometimes in life, you’re so close to the situation that you just can’t see the solution.
The reason that we can help you with this is…
I can listen to you like maybe no one ever has in your life and then assist you make sense of the goals you want to achieve or issue you may face and then assist you to find the solution, not just a quick fix, ones that will work out perfect for you the ones that are in your best interest and fit with your values and beliefs, allowing you to see the bigger picture of what you feel you really want in your life and to see towards your true life purposes and the brighter future that you truly deserve.
Now ask yourself this question…
How much better would your life feel to you?
When the maze hedges are trimmed down and you can see more clearly and you’re no longer on a dirt track with dead ends and rough terrain therefore then your life begins to feel more fluid, back on track and running on a smooth road with choices of destination, choices you can make with a clear mind easily negotiating the maze of life with passion and drive achieving more than you ever dreamed possible.