Posts Tagged ‘Self help’
We all have feelings and emotions, sometimes we can feel hurt, sad, betrayed, let down and even angry or jealous when others don’t do as we would like them to or misunderstand the communications we have given or received from them. Now whether others should do what we want is debatable and depends on the context or situation and that is not what I’m getting at here. It is though a problem when we end up feeling those kind of emotions that do us harm because, to feel any of these feelings and emotions you have to internalise them and use some kind of harmful self talk, whether that be consciously or unconsciously to bring about these feelings of being angry, sad, hurt, betrayed, jealous or guilty, just to name a few.
There are times when these feelings are warranted however, there are times when they are not and I’m sure you know what I mean by this, as we are all guilty from time to time of doing just that, now these feelings damage us far more than they will ever do to anyone else and for those of us who tend to run those feelings over and over and over again, we can then sometimes end up feeling very unhappy way after the event is completely finished with and that is detrimental for your wellbeing both mentally and spiritually and the more problems you create by allowing feelings like this to get the better of you the more it affects your life and your personality, this then can then lead to even more problems like the feeling of low self esteem, lack of confidence and unhelpful self talk, if this is left to fester it would lead to serious depression and the negative effects to your health that go with it.
Start to ask yourself, what is this feeling telling me, what can I learn from this?
Use your feelings as a barometer to help you take a step back from any situation, rather than over reacting to it, start to ask yourself how is feeling this way helping you to get the results that you want, what can you learn from this? Forget the past, the only thing that is useful from the past is what you have learnt from your experiences, not how you feel when you think about those past events, unless they are happy and positive thoughts that is. There is no need to carry old burdens you had from your past as they do not serve you and if you had felt anger, sadness, hurt, fear or guilt about past events then it may well be doing you more harm than you realise.
What you can also do to help yourself is to listen to a hypnosis mp3 or see a hypnotherapist, this will help you at an unconscious level to help you become the person you want to be. Remember if you don’t like how you feel, the only person that can really change that is you, make the decision to live the life that you deserve. This now brings me nicely on to my new hypnosis track on Self Esteem and Relaxation which is for sale at less than the price of a decent cup of coffee, please see details below 🙂
Instructions on using this mp3. To get the best from this hypnosis mp3, is to listen to it before going to bed, over headphones and at a low and comfortable volume, either seated in a cosy chair or lying down, take a good 5 minutes out before starting to take some deep breaths and allow yourself to begin to relax, for best results listen to the hypnosis mp3 for 5 nights in a row, then take 2 nights off, repeat this pattern for 4 to 6 weeks, after this use as a “top up” when required.
***Hypnosis should never be listened to whilst driving or operating machinery.***
All music on this mp3 is Royalty Free music
Mystery main theme Music by….Alex Khaskin ( SOCAN ) publisher salieri music inc Native fire Music by….Alex Khaskin ( SOCAN ) publisher salieri music inc Pirates the love story Music by….Alex Khaskin ( SOCAN ) publisher salieri music inc Fairywinds Composers… Bjorn Lynne PRS(uk) Publisher Lynne Publishing (PSR) Pirates hereafter Music by….Alex Khaskin ( SOCAN ) publisher salieri music inc Big epic Music by…Alex Khaskin ( SOCAN ) publisher salieri music inc Lucid dreams Composers… Bjorn Lynne PRS(uk) Publisher Lynne Publishing (PSR) Time to breathe Composers… Bjorn Lynne PRS(uk) Publisher Lynne Publishing (PSR) Humankind Music by….Alex Khaskin ( SOCAN ) publisher salieri music inc
Some of you may have made some New Year’s resolutions, maybe you are sticking to them maybe you have not?
I personally did not set any as I prefer to set goals that are in alignment with want I really want to happen in my life and making them S.M.A.R.T goals, if that’s something of interest to you, see my last blog for more details. One of my goals that I’ve set for this year is to be more active and productive on my blog and podcast as most of last year went past very fast as I spent time studying everything that interested me and helping others make changes to their own lives. So with that in mind let me begin….. I thought I would start off with one idea that is of great value and so much more powerful than you would ever think and that’s…
In the self-help world and the world of helping yourself you will hear and see the word Gratitude a lot and the fact is that Gratitude is so much more powerful than you may think. People, Leaders and Gurus will all talk about how powerful gratitude is and how it is a game changer and it really is.
You may hear and see people taking about “The Secret” and the “Law of Attraction” the power of positive thought and how that can change the way you live your life and more importantly the way you feel about the life you live, you see the truth is most people don’t look more than a week or two ahead, or even a day or two ahead, they don’t set goals, outcomes and they don’t have a positive intent to back it all up, and they don’t feel gratitude every day, even when their life may be going just how they would like it to go, I know this doesn’t apply to everybody as you may be very future minded and if you are then that’s fantastic but if you’re not don’t blame yourself just realise you can change your life and it is so much easier than you may think!
The truth is with a small amount of work on your behalf you can get amazing results it’s not just about saying it once and it all starts to happen, it’s about making it a life pattern and feeling grateful even when all hell is breaking loose!
That may sound and look like you will have to put a lot of effort in yet the mind learns at an unconscious level and can make this as effortless as remembering to brush your teeth, so now you can see why some people will say it doesn’t work for them they will say I tried it and it did not work for me, but did they really?
You will hear and see some people talking about the law of attraction how they tried it and how it did not work for them. They probably thought about a sports car and winning the lottery, owning the mansion and probably let that run though their mind once or twice and then thought that it would just appear out of thin air…..! they may have said they were grateful a few times then went right back to their old reality and they may end up saying “well it might work for others but it hasn’t worked for me!”
If you wanted to learn to climb mountains you wouldn’t start on Everest would you? So with that in mind, how would you like to change your life for the better and start getting more of the life that you truly deserve? Well if you do I’ve got one word for you……. “Gratitude” if done right it really is a game changer!
Now where to start……
Get a pen and a note pad now set aside one hour of your time, sit down and take four nice deep breaths and relax, now begin to write down any and everything that you can feel grateful for and as you do this feel the Gratitude, continue to do this until the hour is up.
Now depending on how great you feel about your life now or not, your list will be either long or short and that does not matter as it’s a living list that you add too and the more you feel grateful the more grateful you become.
The next thing you want to do when you have written your list, is just before you go to bed that night and every night from that night on read through your list and feel the Gratitude and I mean feel it, see it, taste it, hear it, there is a lot to feel grateful for after all you are so much more than you think you are in fact whatever you think you are, you will be that and so much more too.
Now add to your list as and when you can, do this every night before you go to bed. Read though your list and add at least one new thing. Then again every morning, read them, feel the Gratitude and add to the list even if it’s only a few new ones, do this everyday and make it a habit because when you do this and you really feel the gratitude your life and your world will become a better place and so much more
If you’re having trouble finding things to feel Gratitude for start by asking yourself these questions and write down your answers Ask yourself what is it that really matters to you? What can you appreciate about yourself and the world around you? How do you know when your happy what tells you your happy? What happens in your life every day that you may take for granted? Some words from a great mentor of mine come to mind…
Stop looking for what is a problem and start noticing what is not a problem in your life.
Because that’s where the answers are.