I thought I would write a blog about my own thoughts from the past and how much they have changed as you may see things within this that may help you too …..
When I was younger I viewed the world with a very negative outlook, I would try something once and if it did not go right for me the first time I would give up and blame everything around me, I would say things to myself like “I’m not as good as anyone else is, I’m weak and in the animal world the weak die, Maybe I should not be here?”
I would look at girls that I liked and say to myself “she would never go out with me I’m ugly and she’s so pretty, I not good enough for her or she’s too good for me” and as you can imagine I began to get what I was asking for….
Low self-esteem, little or no confidence and a self-destructive nature, now I’m not saying things never went right for me because they did and yet when they did because of the beliefs I had began to create in my mind I would look for what could go wrong within this and every situation, then I would begin to create scenarios in my mind about how it would all go wrong and guess what ? It did!
I remember one such event where there was a girl I really liked and I mean really liked, I wanted her to like me so much that I found myself being very positive about it working out for me and I worked hard to get her attention which I did and she began to like me too! I was so happy for about one day then once again …. The thoughts of not being good enough and how it would all go wrong began to creep into my mind and I began to run the scenario again and again, how she would see someone else and not want me anymore and that I was not good enough for her, how she would notice what a failure I was and not want to be with me and the list would go on and guess what?
Within a few weeks she began to hate me and I mean hate me…. soon after the self-pity mode kicked in and I began saying to myself, “see I knew this would happen it always happens I never get what I want, there must be something wrong with me, I must be unlucky and I’ll never be happy or get what I want”
….. and at this point I would like to turn to what I know now…. I was getting everything I asked for!
If you notice what messages I was sending to my unconscious mind it was a stream of unhealthy suggestions backed up with scenarios of how it would all go wrong and if you consider that when we communicate with other people only 7% of our communication is words 38% tonality 55% physiology it’s no wonder she ran for the hills and now I can understand why!
Because of the messages I was sending out consciously and unconsciously to her and myself
The relationship only had one outcome ….. FAILURE, and your unconscious mind will always look for more of what you want because you’re telling yourself at an unconscious level that is what you want, now I know and I’m sure you do to, that you don’t want to feel like this and that’s why it is so important to be mindful of what we say to ourselves and when we create scenarios in our minds to make them positive and with a great outcome for yourself .
And you may from time to time create scenarios in which it becomes negative, when this happens be aware of this and find a way that works for yourself to stop it and change it to want you do want.
The way I have found that works for me and may work for you too? (However, use your own scenario as I’m not suggesting you use mine…..) Is when the scenario runs and begins to become negative, make something unusual happen for yourself .
for me, in pops a dwarf who slaps me across the face and says the most ridiculous sentence that I can come up with in my mind and then two beautiful women with placards in their hands saying what the dwarf had said only in writing, and this stops me and put me back on track, you do have to practice this for some time and yet after a while it will happen automatically and without you having to think about it and this gives you time to bring your scenarios back to being positive and having the right outcome for you and when you do this I can assure you your life will begin to change for the better as mine has.
And if you are a dwarf reading this I assure you that I don’t mean any offence to you and feel free to have me look ridiculous and slap you in your scenarios!
Know that you are amazing and realise you can have control over your life, begin to figure out what will make you congruent, whole and complete then focus your thoughts and see it as if you have it now because when you do this you can begin to have the life you want and truly desire.
Have a wonderful Christmas and a happy New Year!!!!
P.S. Watch out for the competition coming soon!!!